Leaving the Angst

Great news!!! There has been lots of activity in our blog during the past week. Really active i would say.. Yay !!

*clap clap* A round of applause for everyone.

However, having said that, from the past few post, most would have realised that it has somehow become a crossfire btw 2 of my dear friends. With all the angst, like Artsy said, it's probably unhealthy for both the readers and writers of the blog.

I would actually beg to differ.

Our main reasons for creating this blog was to share laughter, recipes, ramblings, advices and etc.....and most of all to document our lives. And what is life without ups and downs? Disagreement and fall outs are completely normal among friends right? So what's so unhealthy about saying what you feel, quarelling and disagreeing. To me, bringing it out into the open is much healthier. This is life. And life is not like a bed of roses.

Maybe, from here, both of my friends would realise thier own weakness and thier strengths. From here, they would be able to learn graciousness and the other empathy and sensitivity? From here, they would understand that there is more to be learned between each other?

At the end of the day, i believe that, 2 of my friends still loves each other dearly and that this problem will become joke in the future. That's the confidence and faith i have in them. I hope that they too have faith in each other. And i hope, with this post, it would bring closure to this episode.

Relationships are easy to build, but keeping them needs plenty to effort, time and sacrifices.

thumbs - MoMo*Chin

Angst

There definitely is a lot of angst in this blog lately.

Not very healthy, I guess, for the people writing it or for the people reading it.

*shrugs*

Well, Aunty, you are right. It is not your fault. It is the fault of higher management who doesn't know how to appreciate their existing employees. Employees, whom they say are experienced and were the longest in the department. Like I said, if you have prior or even relevant experience in this industry that we're in now, itwill make the bitter pill a lot easier to swallow. Heck, I will even understand it.

But your 5 years experience is in another, totally different industry. Do you actually get that? Sometimes I feel you don't and that makes me sad. But you have your right to defend yourself. And correction, I don't have a few years experience in this industry. I have 1 1/2 years experience. I don't like inflating my years of experience or my know-how. Whatever's the truth will be the truth.

I don't know how this can resolve but yes, I've also learnt a hard lesson. In fact, I am on the unjust end of this hard lesson... but then, you may beg to differ. No more being so kindhearted, especially in work. I will still refer people, I guess, but I think never to the same department. And only if the person has relevant, said experience. To think I was the one who encouraged her because the people in my department is nice and I also want her to work in a comfortable working environment. Come to think of it, I did help you get a part-time job before when we were in our college days ,didn't I? Maybe you don't remember it already .....

Prettily Aunty, if you want me to feel better, maybe you can try to make yourself more 'useful' in the office. I'm sure you can see that most of us are busy up to our necks. Some of us are already suffocating. Instead of blogging from work or taking naps, or closing your laptop way before work ends, maybe you can offer to help us with our work. Administrative kind that shouldn't be too difficult. Then maybe, I say maybe, I will feel a bit better.

Sorry how I can be brutally honest. It's my big mistake. You are in a way kinda innocent to be caught in this crossfire as well. I know that but I'm only human and it's difficult for me. Probably you will never understand how I feel as you can be quite oblivious to all this sometimes. You may be angry but think about this, if you can.... put yourself in my shoes. How would you react? What would your feelings be? Think of all this and then you would have learnt empathy.

Could be that I have to learn graciousness & you, empathy?

oh, the irony of it all... stupid you-know-who!


Artsy*T

A lesson to be learnt !!!

One of my closest friend has now became my foe……at work…..How irony it that !

It all started out when this kind hearted friend of mine helped passed my resume to her boss….and I’m hired within a month. To make matter worst, I’m given a position higher than my friend who has been working there for a few years. I supposed my 6 years of experience in another industry wasn’t sufficient for me to earn the new title in my career ??!! Perhaps, the HR in the company and the boss DIDN'T know how to value their existing employee before hiring new hires. Whose fault is it now ??


Overjoyed that I found a job, I am also dismayed that how this opportunity has tarnished my friendship with my gal friend. Nothing that I say can ever make it up to her. Seeing her at work is so awkward...we hardly talk, we don't smile...we are like total strangers. Should I resign?? So to resign or to continue working , is the ultimate question !! But I need the job….who else is going to hire me who’s now 2 months pregnant ?

I concluded ….NEVER EVER work in the same company as your close friends, OR STAY ( renting an apartment ) with your close friends…..all the good will , will just back-fire.

I’ve learnt a hard lesson ( so did my friend )….always knew about that philosophy, but didn’t adhere to it….now ‘I kena’ !!!

To my friend : Thank you for recommending me the job when I needed it most.

I pray that Someday…things will smoothen out….and

All the best to me.....to keep surviving in this new work place till at least the baby is born ….( hopefully…. )


Yours truly,

Prettilly Aunty

Hush Little Baby, Don't you Cry....

Harlow !!

It’s Tuesday afternoon and I’m blogging at WORK….how cool is that !!
I’ve finally got INTERNET at work…it’s such a necessity !! So Crucial that life would be in a standstill if there’s no INTERNET….too ‘kua chuang’ already, right ?? I’ve read thru all the past post….so many things have been happening….to all of my frens and to ME too !!

Now I wonder…how fast we have all grown….
Me……Prettily Aunty….the 1st to be Mrs Somebody
Then, Poo Poo Jay ……2nd to tie the knot
Next in line ….Artsy*T
( When will it be for MoMo Chin and DaisyBoo??
Having said that, no pressure on MoMo Chin and DaisyBoo, good things are worth waiting for…thats what we always say…let fate plays it part…. )

To Artsy*T – Don’t stress….you will be BEAUTIFUL BRIDE on your wedding day….and it will be wonderful !! All brides GLOW on that one special day….so enjoy !!

If you think that’s not fast…..wait till you read the next line….

Prettily Aunty is going to be a MUMMY !!! ~ cold sweat running down the forehead ~
Me….a mummy!!!! Can you imagine ?? Me ?? A MUM ?? I can’t even take care of myself …
After reading DaisyBoo’s stories of her 2 cute and demanding nephews…..i begin to wonder, am I ready to take on this new role ??

Barely 8 months being Mrs Somebody, haven’t got quite accustomed to, I’m now thrown into the weird and enchanting world of pregnancy !!
So how have it been, you may ask ??

It’s quite NICE……I can get away with eating as much as I want to…and not worry about putting on weight. I can be the PRINCESS at home ( as what my mon-in law says ~ hubby to carry the heavy stuff, take care of me, don’t do too much household chores… hehe  ), Sleep all day….and just say…I’m TIRED , Baby need to rest !!!!!

All right, all right…..that’s the nice part…..dun get jealous .

The not so nice part…..i get ‘NIGHT SICKNESS’ ! U heard of that before?? Weird, but it’s true.
I barely eat 2 tablespoon of rice, that’s it….yucks….
Then I keep going to the loo every 1 hour , for the whole day !!
Smell....Ughh !! YUCKSSS……hate the smell of Liquid Detergen-Dynamo, Shower Cream, Make-Up, my hubby’s cologne …even my condo smells weird….like the wall paint started to smell different !!! I might end up sleeping on the road….
Not to forget, the back ache, knee ache…..no more heels, no tight bras and tight undies……
My * properties* have grown in size and it’s heavy !! And it hurts!!
My tummy is bulging a little…..but I always have a tummy….( Nicole Kidman says….Tom likes my belly…..bet she’s wrong about that )

Baby ( or should I call it Foetus )….i’ll call it Baby….it’s cuter…..is 2 months old….
Can’t wait for the 1st trimester to be over…
Till then, pls pray for me…that both mummy and baby is healthy !!

~will post the ultrasound scan in my next post !


Love , Prettily Aunty

Life's Unfair...

Triggered by a friends 'unfortunate' incident.... I decided to google that particular phrase and this caught my attention :

“The most unfair thing about life is the way it ends. I mean, life is tough. It takes up a lot of your time. What do you get at the end of it? A Death! What's that, a bonus? I think the life cycle is all backwards. You should die first, get it out of the way.
Then you live in an old age home. You get kicked out when you're too young, you get a gold watch, you go to work. You work forty years until you're young enough to enjoy your retirement. You do drugs, alcohol, you party, you get ready for high school.
You go to grade school, you become a kid, you play, you have no responsibilities, you become a little baby, you go back into the womb, you spend your last nine months floating......
and you finish off as an orgasm.” ~ George Carlin (american stand-up comedian)

Funny huh?

I've gone through my fair share of unfairness. But what can you do about it? You can sulk, grumble and cry about it for a short while.. but please get on with life after that. When faced with bad situations, you have 2 choices; to suck it up, move on and learn from it or you can dwell on it and waste your life away pitiying yourself.
I'm proud and happy that all my good and close friends are those who triump over obstacle. Although there would be tough times, but i'm confident most of them would pull through. And besides... there are always great friends and family around to help....
Oh.. and always remember to be grateful for all the lucky things that you've got!!! And probably u'll find that life is not that unfair afterall...

thumbs - MoMo*Chin

a short story....

Two small boys got their results recently. By my standards, both did well, but since they're only in kindergarten (I'm not even going into that) - who cares really.

The little one will be awarded the "Best Improvement Prize" in his class and will be receiving this on stage in front of all his schoolmates. Immediately after school, the bigger brother called his grandpa and informed him that his "didi" will be receiving a trophy and he has none. Grandpa's response? "I'll give you one." And so, both grandpa and grandma went to the shop and ordered for him a trophy that says, "To KJ, for being a good boy..... From grandpa and grandma".

-daisyboo-

Gift of Insult

Came across this Zen story the other day.....


There once lived an old master whose reputation extended throughout the land as a formidable warrior who has yet to be defeated. He attracted many students from all over, all eager to learn from him.

One day, he was challenged by a young warrior who was determined to be the first man to defeat the great master. This young man possessed both the strength and ability to exploit an opponent’s weakness.

The old master gladly accepted the young warrior's challenge. As the two faced one another in battle, the young warrior began to hurl insults at the old master. The verbal insults lasted for hours, but the old master merely stood there motionless and calm. Finally, the young warrior exhausted himself and left after knowing he was defeated.

The master’s students gathered around him and asked, "How could you endure such an indignity? How did you drive him away?"

"If someone comes to give you a gift and you do not receive it," the master replied, "to whom does the gift belong?"


It got me thinking…..

Insults are not the most pleasant thing to receive and one of the most hurtful. Similar with a lot of things in life, we cannot control the actions of others but we can control how we deal with them. To quote Spock, “Insults are effective only where emotion is present”. Reacting to insults only serves to give what the other party wants. Why react negatively over some senseless remark when all it does is provide grief or anger to ourselves and instant gratification to the other? Besides, it reflects more on the behavior of the insulting party than the recipient. As the wise master implied, when one does not accept the insult, it belongs to the person who carried them.

The young warrior, in all his eagerness and arrogance to prove his strength, was so focused on finding the master’s weakness that he had failed to see his wisdom and learn from them.


Perhaps some of our country's MP can learn a thing or two from this....

-daisyboo-

Weddings

Weddings. A union of two souls. Joined as one to live life together in unison. Beautiful garden wedding, lush greenery abound, perfect crimson red roses and white ribbons adorn the arch. Your perfect, dream wedding....

*snap*

Let's come back to reality here. Yes, it is a union between two souls but boy, it sometimes sure doesn't seem like it. It's more like a union of two families!!

I am in the midst of preparing for my wedding. There seems to be more and more things that needs to be done and time is really drawing near! I only hope that I will be able to pull through unscathed and emerge beautifully....

Already work is piling on me. There are more and more work to be done, more responsibilities on my shoulders. I pray that I will be able to handle both work and wedding in as best a way as I possibly can.


thumb ~ Artsy*T